When it comes to hard conversations, the approach needs to be anchored in humility, empathy, vulnerability and perspective-taking. Our natural tendency is to create a consensus, not ruffle feathers with a sprinkle of avoidance and fawning.
But there are situations when we do not have the choice but to have conversations that come and challenge the very core of your being and all your narratives.
In the current situation in the Middle East, many are left helpless, shocked, terrorized and enraged. A question I have been asked often in the past month is what can be done.
How can we add value and have an impact?
Truth is, we are all interconnected. Everything is interconnected. Nothing operates in silo, and Nature will always seek balance. Once we realize this, it is evident that the current actions over the last month will change the world. What it will look like is another question: how can I add value?
Like many of my colleagues and peers, I have been making space for my friends, family and clients to listen and understand the different facets of the conflict, but also making sure they feel heard, seen and supported as much as possible. This complemented with a thorough historical deep dive was very revealing of the collective impact of this conflict. It is not a new conflict, it has been spanning over several decades.
Like many of you, I have been making space to listen to leaders and managers, and help them to understand their level of psychological safety and comfort, so that they can add value and better support employees who may be directly and indirectly impacted by the ongoing humanitarian crisis in the Middle East.
While I know it’s important to challenge people sometimes, here are some tools to add to your perspective-taking conversation backpack, rooted in empathy and human dignity:
While it may feel very overwhelming after over 50 days of constant death and massacres on our screen, stay informed an notice your emotional capacity. You can only show up authentically if you take care of yourself, therefore practice cyber hygiene and keep educating yourself so you can pass on a more informed version of history, a legacy that includes your story, not your silence. A legacy that includes a human-centred approach, and not a political/state-centered approach.
“The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed.” –Steve Biko
Let’s keep continuing to pray for the safety, and safe return as we continue to call for a liberative solution in Gaza and the rest of Palestine, and a safety-centred solution for the global Jewish community. To all leaders holding conversations, remember to tend to your personal Psychological Safety backpack first in order to support your team, family and community better, with a focus centred on Humanity.
As long as we keep our collective Humanity at the center of it all, the solutions and path towards a collective liberate peace will show itself.
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“I urge you to answer the highest calling of your heart and stand up for what you truly believe” – Nadia Theodore, Ambassador of Canada to the WTO and permanent representative of Canada to the Permanent Mission of Canada in Geneva, Switzerland.